Newly diagnosed

[mistymeg2000]

So I am newly diagnosed...as of the official positive as of early today

I don't know what to do anymore. I know there won't be S-- with anybody that doesn't have it ever again. I don't want the risk given to someone else as well. The people (less than 3) I have done something with in the last 2 years claim they don't have it and so I don't know who I even got it from. I am so sad, irritated and more. I have never had anything else (STD's) in my life, so this is all new. I want to find others like me and someone I can relate to. I don't even know where to start..other than here or course.

Misty

[(deleted)]

`I am sorry to see you here just because it has really hard news to get!!! I have known now since May and it hasn't gotten any easier...I am just going through the motions and realizations of the whole pic.....just know you are not alone....and there are many people here who are understanding.....although kinda hard to chat with....hang in there, I am here if u need to chat!!!

[msmekka024]

`I know I'm late but I haven't been on in long while. I just want to say you have my ears and my support because I am right there with you as I'm sure number of us are here. Hit me up with a message sometime if you want to chat.

[tiggersgirl67]

`I have had herpes 2 years and it is still hard to deal with. It does help talking to people...especially people who understand what your going through...I found out and was in the hospital 3 days later with viral meningitis and I was also having a severe outbreak it was my 1st and the worst. Just know we are here for you.

[(deleted)]

`I was diagnosed with herpes 5 ½ years ago, and it was devastating. I got it from my boyfriend the first time we had s--. He was a total d--- about it and still denies giving it to me to this day; even though his brother in law who took him to the doctor told me that he had it. I still stayed with him even though he was such a jerk and ended up being an unloving partner because I was ashamed of what I had and thought that nobody would want me. I have had relationships after this one and have told my partners that I have it even though it isn’t an easy thing to do, and most of them were really understood. They knew that the virus didn’t determine what kind of person I was, how I loved them, or they way I made love to them. Those relationships ended because of other things like going back to their ex-wife and then feeling stupid for leaving me etc…lol. What I’m trying to say is that even though it’s extremely hard when you first find out; don’t let the diagnosis get you down.

Also make sure you take extremely good care of yourself, such as eating healthy, introduce more fruits and vegetables or raw foods into your diet. Drink LOTS and LOTS of water, and make sure you got your exercise. Being healthier has helped me a lot. Also for women birth control can become an issue. Make sure to speak with your doctor on all options. Try not to take a pill that has too many hormones as hormonal changes affect when we have an outbreak as well. I had to get off of some pill recently because I was constantly having an outbreak some were just a sore here and there and this last one was a full on c----er of sores sucked ass!!! I guess that’s a good form of birth control in someone else’s eyes lol. I hope my input has helps any of you out there. Take care of yourself and try not to let this get you down. Please feel free to message me anytime you want/need to talk to someone.

[nisha78]

`I know how you feel, I was diagnosed last week and been depress every since. I try to not think about it but its so hard not to. Im happy they have this site to see that im not alone. I just keep thinking that my dating life is over !!! But ima keep mi head up and deal with this hand thats been dealt to me!!! And trust me I will be hitting yall up too wen I need to talk!!!

[toriboo]

`Dats wats up!!!! Trust me we all been through the same feelings you going through. I was diagnosis with the disease in January, and I tell you time is flying. I remember just like it was yesterday I was in the doctor office crying my little heart out when she told me dat ish! Take it one day at a time and hit me up if any of yall need a friend. Having a good support system is really what gonna get you'll through these hard times, and there is still hope. I decided to stay with the guy whom gave me the virus until April when I let him go. That's the time I found myself and my worth. I met guys and yes I told them about my situation and most still wanted to talk to me. The first guy after the guy that gave me herpes didn't work out, for he was a horrible liar and a cheater. I met a guy at work talked to him and got to know him, and then I let him know my situation and I am glad to say we are still an a relationship til this day. I really like that man. Just wanted to let you know that all hope is not gone, and if people doesn't accept you for your flaws then they are not worth the time!!!!

[msmealil]

`Thanks for the words. I am just in disbelief I feel like a Saturday Morning Special.. Lol try to laugh because tears just make me frustrated.. I have got to tell you although I am not on here much I am thankful for this site... Yes mama 1 day at a time... Thanks sweetie for the kind words.... Stay in touch...

[toriboo]

`I am thankful for this site too!!! It made me feel a lot better when I joined and realize I'm not the only one who's in this situation, and even inspired me even more when I hear good stories from people who are living successful and happy lives with the disease. Just put yourself in good company and set goals everything will be just fine. Be cautious but don't be afraid to open up to new people because you'll never know who will accept you and love you for you if you don't!!!!

[sadprincess01]

`Hello am new here and am all confussed. Just experienced my first break out and boy is it painfull but taking pain killer and it helps a lil. I dont know what news was worst this or when was diagnosed with polyps (pre-colon cancer) Well I think this cause I could of prevented this but since it happened I dont know who to talk to about it. My family have enough stress thinking with me getting more polyps else were since I have two polyps which cant get remove. If I tell them I dont know what will happen. My friends are not to be trust cause they will just tell everyone. What else can I do.

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Hi my name is Amy.

I know what you are going through and you are not alone.
I am also a new herpes diagnosed woman. I'm struggling with a lack of support, on and off depression and confusion about it.
I'm taking medication for surpressive therapy and it seemed to keep me outbreak free for a while. Currently having an outbreak and it's depressing all over again.
I haven't found a way to cope or come to terms with it yet.

[(deleted)]

`Hello everyone, I just gotten the news about my status( one week ago)and to be honest its hard, like really hard. But you guys have help me lots with words of inspiration . I went from feeling like I wanted to kill myself to understanding that is not the end of the world and there's someone that will love you for you and not your status. But I just wanted to say thanks you...

[toriboo]

`Thats wonderful if this site does anything it inspires us to keep on living with understanding we are not alone and by reading experiences from people like us that will help us grow

[spicegurl]

`Hun i can sooo relate to this. I was just newly diagnosed with it less than a month ago on the first breakout which by far was terrible! ): And i got it on my period 100% times worst. Just calm down though. My doctor informed me that stress can cause you to breakout even more. You can in fact date someone who is negative. I have many guy friends and friends with benifits that i've already told and they still accept me as me. Some even told me they're willing to have unprotected S-- with me if i like. Others have told me they'll stick beside me through everything. So just find the right people and get the support you need. Everything will be okay.

[walkabout29]

`I am feeling you. I found out about 16 days ago. It was horrifying because the blood test came back negative and I just didn't know what it was, the fear was just all over me and invading my mind. I had a friend with me take me to the hospital and he was there for me if not verbally supportive, he gave me a place to go over christmas break when i couldn't hold my composure anymore. I chopped a lot of wood, surprisingly enough that helped get the anger out. I still feel sexy and I still want to be touched, but the idea of having to tell someone who is interested in me ( not that I was having any luck in that department before this news) and having them leave. But the way i figure it that is what everyone deep down is afraid of so really im normal just more so.... does that make sence?

I am also sad, really sad, but I can't find the tears because it won't change anything, my life or my health. I think i just need a hug this morning.