What do I do Now?

[jaz26]

I am 26 years old and just found out I have herpes from the guy that me at a bar one night. I don't really know how to handle living with this. For the last few days, I thought of many crazy things to do to myself. Not many of my friends or family know so I can't really talk to them and I doubt they will be understanding at all. I need friends that will be understanding. I am thinking in the back of my head. Who would ever want someone like me? Will I ever find a guy who will love me even though I have this? I feel horrible and dirty. I think I just need someone to be there and tell "everything is gonna be okay!" Even though I may not believe it right now.[/b]

Jazzy

[toriboo]

`Girl I'm 22 years old and I recently found out that I had herpes the first of january by a guy that I was dating. It's along story but I feel as if he entrapped me. Anyways it's very hard we all cry and we all ask why, but the best advice to give is just take it one day at a time!!!! If your looking for a female friend to talk to whenever you feel down just give me your number! We all need support groups that will keep us from doing anything silly including suicidal thoughts. I'm a human service major and myself personally needed help coping with this situation. I still haven't told my parents and I really til this day don't think I'm going to tell them! Counseling is a very good way to help you see in reality that this disease isn't the end of your life and that everything will be okay!!!!!! You just need to believe that!!!!!! If you ever need any questions asked or any help at all just hit me up!!!!!! I wish you well!!!!!!!!!!

[gideon69]

`@jaz26 I'm telling you that i know it's going to be ok. I have had it since 07 and I'm doing great. I have even been on a few dates from sites like this too. You future looks bright. Things could always be worse and nothing makes your problems look small like helping people with theirs.

[gideon69]

`@toriboo You give great advice and I ain't mad at you cause I ain't tell my parents either because I'm from a prominent church family with people on the board and head deacons and chior directors so it's kind of for their own protection,lol.

[toriboo]

`lol born and raised in the church as well!!! If It don't kill me it'll make me stronger, and it's not a life or death issue, so I figure what they don't know want hurt them. It will cause more harm then good if I was to tell them

[gideon69]

`@toriboo U see great minds do think alike,lol when I hear about what my other friends got and then I see what I got I just thank God for my life cause it's no where near over for us you know what I mean and my friends ain't doin too bad either . they are still dating and living a full life but sometimes I be mad at them cause they forget they have to stay in their "dating pool" you feel me.

[toriboo]

`Yeah, I feel you!!! Sometimes I see an old friend from high school that been having HIV since high school I end up getting jealous ( jealous not the word, but similar). I just wonder how she completely happy and I'm not (I get over it though). My problem that got me at first and maybe is I'll never get married and have no more kids. I at least want a girl, but I see her and she having baby after baby!!! Idk I'm happy for her and I pray about it all the time, so it's God decision for to allow me to get married and have some more kids. If I don't then I was blessed with one already and I sure will spoil him and raise him up to be the best man he can be for God!

[gideon69]

`@Toriboo I'M lost lol

[toriboo]

I was saying I gotta friend whose living her life having kids and soon 2 b getting married if she can do it then we ccan n hopefully we'll get wat we all looking for if we just have faith n if its God will!!!!

[gideon69]

`I got that and im glad you have come to the make the right choice to continue to enjoy life. when I said i was lost i was tring to find the relationship area ,lol tell me about yo little man,lol

[toriboo]

`He's the love of my life!!! My lil man just turned 2 and gets into everything. He's the prime example of what they call a terrible 2 yr older. When I get the guts I might post some more pics up but I don't think I'm ready for that!! I wasn't even sure if I wanted to put a pic on the profile but I decided to do it. I figure if I'm going to cope with this disease I might as well find support groups and open honestly to people who are suffering from the same thing I'm suffering from. I rather for people to see me and my personality and like me, instead of being ashamed and not have success and get depressed and become suicidal. God is 2 good for that!!!!

[gideon69]

`Amen sista amen to that amen

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`I'm 23 & I found out I had herpes in May of last year when I was 2 months pregnant w my now 1 yr old. I was devasted bc not only was a going through a divorce, but I was pregnant & had this, I was afraid that it would harm my baby. I was afraid that no one would love me w this std & that I would be judged, put down & rejected. Only the closest ppl to my heart know of my "situation" but when I have my bad days where I just cry about this, I feel so alone bc they don't understand my pain & heartache. I try to look at this from a positive angle saying that besides herpes im healthy & im alive, but sometimes it feels like death would make things easier, but in reality that's not true. Im careful when it comes to a s----l matter, im nervous as ever bc I wouldn't want to have that guilt of giving someone this curse, so S-- has been a distant memory for me bc im so cautious. I take my meds everyday & am careful about ppl drinking or eating after me just to be safe. Im glad that I found this site bc now I don't feel so alone bc the ppl here, share my same emotions on this matter & im thankful for that.

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Hello its unfortunate of what happen to you & I must say that you're strong just speaking out about it, I know its hard. When I found out I had this my ex husband made me feel like that dirtiest person on the planet & I felt horrible. I thought of crazy things to do myself & then I thought I am live this disease hasn't taken my life & I thank God for that, this is very hard to deal w I still have my bad days, im gonna just tell you that everything will be alright. You will find someone that will love you, you have to just be patient & careful it takes alot. You aren't filthy or dirty nor is it your fault, the man that you will have to answer for what he's done. You may not know me, but im going through the same thing & I feel like ppl going through this should stick together & support eachother bc this is hard to deal w emotionally & support helps you get through those bad days. If you need a friend im here.

[gideon69]

`you may not want to hear from a dude right now but if you ever want to vent or talk in the future im here.Ive had it since 07. I was careless and was doin too much partyin.Ive never looked this good before and I let all the attention I was gettin get to my head and now we are here in this place. It's a blessing and a curse but i can tell you this, Life since then has been better than ever before. I value life more. I respect my self more and i worship women and the ground they walk on. hang in there beautiful you still got your whole life ahead of you.it's not over .