New to this site...

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Hey.

I am new to this site and fairly new to herpes. I am really looking for someone to chat to and maybe get close to.

I am finding life really hard at the moment and it would be really nice to talk to someone about things.

Thanks =)

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`Hi. I'm new to this site and new to HSV-2 (gen. herpes). I've apparently never had HSV-1. I'm finding life hard at the moment for myself as well - just broke up with a guy that won't be honest about getting tested - which I'm positive he gave it to me... and additionally, I'm feeling like my self-esteem is shattered from getting this; afraid to date, fearful of rejection, and since I'm in my mid-thirties, I'm finding it impossible. Still, I'm trying to find some positive outlook on all of this. It isn't easy. I'm in therapy/counseling to help me through this. I'm fearful that even if I dated someone else with Herpes, that there are different strains you could catch. I have no symptoms whatsoever, and I'm afraid of my condition getting worse. I'm also afraid now of catching other diseases, like HPV (which I don't have), but those diseases - though some may say are like herpes - they're not - actually can cause cancer and are dangerous for both men and women. Men can't get tested for HPV, so that is scary to me; and likewise, most people that don't present themselves with symptoms of herpes can still get it and pass it on (like what happened to me catching it without any symptoms), and in the meantime doctors don't always include herpes in the testing for STD's - even when asking for tests for ALL STD's, I found that doctors still don't include the blood tests. Not fair! But at least Herpes isn't found to cause cancer like some of the other diseases, and at least it's not life-threatening. So hope this helps. I feel for ya, I feel for me too. I'm trying to deal with it too. You're not alone.

[imperfectrose]

`Hi, I'm new here too! I found out had herpes last year. And its really hard for to get though it. I have told a few guys but I still don't understand it completely yet.

[derekjh]

`Hi sweetie1990. I'm also 20, and I'm looking for someone to talk with.

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`Response to all: Hey guys. Well, ive had hsv-1 one for a year now and im learning to deal with all that comes with it. The man i got it from was also dishonest when it came to getting tested and for the longest time I couldnt deal with that. i fear rejection as well and even my family's habits have changed around me but im staying positvie about it all. YOU CAN STILL BE HAPPY AND YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS. Herpes doesnt have to be a death sentence. So if you ever need someone to talk to or vent to or if you have any questions about herpes, my inbox awaits. lol. Maybe we can help each other. (p.s. I hope this didnt sound too cheesy,lol, its just how i feel )

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`Is the inbox work in? I've been reaching out to people with no response at all. Not even on forums. I've had hsv 2 for a year now and This is the first time or place I've spoken of it. It would be nice to interact with others who understand. I'm open to converse with anyone. Holla at me!

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`Is the inbox work in? I've been reaching out to people with no response at all. Not even on forums. I've had hsv 2 for a year now and This is the first time or place I've spoken of it. It would be nice to interact with others who understand. I'm open to converse with anyone. Holla at me!

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`@jizzie3000 the first year was the worst. It got easier then told someone I really liked n calls/texts stopped. I think I've taken 10steps backward. However, this not being a death sentence, taking meds, and explaining that cold sores are herpes too is sufficient for most guys to decide if they choose you as-is or just don't want the risk. Problem is-- none of them were worth keeping around so H1 nor H2 had anything to do with it.
The guy lied and denied it who gave it to me too. I was friends with him 15 yrs b4 that "relationship" so we speak if I run into him but he acts like nothing happened. I speak for my own peace of mind--being angry causes stress n stress causes outbreaks.
Thankfully my family n friends treat me no different. They educated themselves or just didn't care, so I'm blessed to have support. It's mostly ppl who don't understand it who panic. That ex is still sleeping around with different women n if he denies there's a problem he definitely isn't telling his partners. Sad.
I would say my senses are amplified in other areas of life now that --- is not a factor. So even guys who don't mind dealing with this I don't end up having --- with because I sense their dishonesty before it gets to that point.
I have supportive Drs also. My new one is young, she said medically its no longer considered an STD so much cuz it's so common n so many ways to get it. 10 yr old girls who never had --- may have it. She also said a partner could take valacyclovir too and not get it. Also, open oozing sores probably pose the greatest risk. Nobody will ever say its 100% safe any way to have --- because there's always a possibility but its not as easy to pass it on as we fear it is. I had no visible signs and a condom broke everything was fine.
I've gotta learn prevention as a lifestyle change: sodas seem to break my face out--but that happens to lots of ppl. Hormonal changes at PMS time breaks out my face. Not getting proper rest, stress (midterms n finals especially), lotta fast food, all seem to contribute to breakout.
Taking valacyclovir (acyclovir was like a placebo to my body-no help) along with lysine seems to keep bumps from completely forming. As soon as it begins to form taking it with plenty water helps it go away b4 surfacing.
It's been 3 yrs I've learned my body's patterns with this and I was a nervous wreck the 1st year so ANY WAY I CAN HELP someone else I don't mind. Someone was there to help me who told me 6yrs earlier than my diagnosis about her situation so I had already learned the stereotypical images of the virus were ridiculous. She had a baby, and a high school friend told me she had it all these years for some odd reason. Guess God was preparing me. She had 4 children and is married. SOOOO, there's hope for the rest of us. It's just a matter of finding that right one and keeping busy n productive while waiting to meet that one.
Some ppl choose to sleep with ppl with same diagnosis without commitment. That's fine with 2 consenting adults. I just prefer not to "have fun" that way because risk increases and that one person may have more than HSV. Same with my ex. His risky-behavior lifestyle increased my chances of also getting HIV. So, as Kenny Rogers sang: u gotta no when to hold em, no when to fold em--no when to walk away; no when to run...
Call me Forrest, lol.